Fall seven times, stand up eight– Japanese proverb.
It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences. Resilience has been described as “the capacity to cope with change and challenge and bounce back during difficult times.”
Being resilient does not mean that a person doesn’t experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common in people who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.
Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviours, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone.
A combination of factors contributes to resilience. Many studies show that the primary factor in resilience is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family. Relationships that create love and trust provide role models and offer encouragement and reassurance help bolster a person’s resilience.
Factors that influence how someone experiences a challenge or trauma include: