Self-esteem is how we value ourselves; it is how we recognise our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects nearly every aspect of our lives. Positive self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to own our lives and grow from our errors without the fear of rejection.
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
“We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed; and it’s this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks.
This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem, which is a more general sense that we can cope with what’s going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we’re competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it.”
It is also important to remember that you can have high self-esteem in one area but lower self-esteem in another area.
If you have high self-esteem in areas that matter to you and low self-esteem in areas that are not so important- that’s manageable. However, if you have low self-esteem in areas that matter to you, this will reduce your sense of worth and chances of success.
Here are some of the examples that could be the cause of low self-esteem:
Identifying what the cause of low self-esteem is can be difficult. It may be so deep in your subconscious and hard to pinpoint when and how it came about.
Self- esteem develops and comes from within, but it is influenced by messages that you receive about yourself from: